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Discipline Solutions Remember that the goal is a changed heart, not just punishment for wrongdoing. A larger consequence may be needed to get the child's attention but the real work takes place by helping children adjust the way they think and the patterns of behavior that have developed over time. Often many small corrections are more effective than one large consequence. Mature people will feel an internal pain when they discover that they've made a mistake or done the wrong thing. This is normal and healthy. Your child may not experience that same inner sense yet. Consequences create a kind of pain for children. This pain can motivate right behavior and get them moving in the right direction. One example of this is the parent who decided to take away the privilege of riding a bike from her nine-year-old son. She said, "Son, I'm not just taking the bike away for a day. I'm taking the bike away until I see some progress in the way you're treating me when I call you in for dinner. We'll try to see how you do for two days and if I see a good response then you can play with your bike again." Mom turned the discipline around so that the child had to earn back the privilege. She wanted to see several positive change points before she gave the privilege back. Kids often need a multi-faceted approach to help them change. Teaching about sensitivity, self-control, respect or another quality will also go a long way to help children change their minds and thus free them to change their hearts as well. Source: www.effectiveparenting.org For more on how to build a good Correction Routine with your children, read the book, "Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids."
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